I called to schedule our vet to come to our home on Monday, July 13th in the afternoon to put Thumper to sleep. It's the day after my birthday. I had a conversation with the ladies this morning, and there were lots of tears all around. Maya said she didn't know grown ups could cry.
Thumper is a crotchety son-of-a-bitch, and has thrown up a few times a month since we got him back in 1997. He pees on carpet, clothes, luggage and other things we would rather not have smelling of cat urine when he gets really pissed off, which happens a few times a year. He was grotesquely obese when we got him, and needed constant attention, though he often tried to bite people that pet him. In the early days, if he felt like he wasn't getting enough love, like say, when we were sleeping, he would stand in the doorway and yowl and yowl all night long until he went hoarse. And then he would do it again the next night. He's never been an easy cat to own - he only puts up with pets and snuggles intermittently, and only for a maximum of about ten seconds; he will often eat until he throws up; he needs to be on Rx cat food, which is expensive. And he is a bane to all vetrinarians that he meets. I took him to get a shot once, and fully muzzled and declawed (he came declawed, I would never declaw a cat), he scared the vet so much that she pressed herself up against a wall to get away from him. He is, if nothing else, a force to be reckoned with.
Thumper has lived in (in order) Rochester, NY, Boston, MA, London, UK, Berlin, Germany, Ames, Iowa, Princeton, NJ, East Lansing, MI, and finally New York City. He has a passport, and a German identity microchip imbedded in his shoulder. He does not like to travel. The sticker on his travel cage warns (in two languages) that though he has no claws, he is a nervous traveler and might bite.
From the time we first got him, he has enjoyed sleeping in boxes. He used to have a particular box that he slept in, and we moved it to three different countries before the box finally broke. He never really played like other cats, but when the Christmas tree went up every year, he would live underneath it for most of the time, and smell like pine for months afterwards. When I was pregnant, almost from before I knew I was pregnant, he would curl up on my stomach when I was lying down and purr these bone-rattling purrs. It is the only time in all the time that we had him that he chose to be on someone's lap, and it is also the only time he would purr in durations lasting longer than 30 seconds. He would purr for hours, fall asleep purring, purr while he slept, and be purring when he woke up. When my stomach was too huge and weirdly shaped for him to be on top of, he would wrap his whole body around my stomach and purr. His purring was one of the very first sounds the ladies ever heard, and they heard it nearly every day for seven months.

This sucks.